How We Survive Pain Through Running, Hiding and Avoiding

It’s time for us to own our authentic selves and to stand in our power. By doing so our life will shift to release those who do not serve us and we will begin to attract people and experiences who serve our highest and best good.

​One of the ways we given our power away was, we survived being in our “not ideal” environment by “running, hiding and avoiding”.  Many people have done this without even consciously thinking. It is used as a tool of protection designed to keep you safe.
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How incredible that at a very young age we developed skills to keep us safe!

Protecting Ourself Through Running

Meet my friend Galaxy (name changed for privacy).

Part or all of her story may be familiar to you or someone you know.
Galaxy had what looked like a normal life from the outside. She had a loving and active family, lots of friends and did well in school. Yet, what no one knew was that Galaxy was being woken up and sexually assaulted for hours every night of her life beginning at age 1.

Wanting to “run” away from her reality as soon as she could, Galaxy got very involved with school, local sports and extracurricular activities as early as elementary school… anything to keep her from being home. Everyone thought she was a really smart and driven little girl... And she was, with the purpose of “avoiding” her home reality. What they didn’t know was that she was “hiding” behind this persona because it kept her safe. And any time away from home meant she had a chance of not being abused.

Galaxy became so good at school and sports that she sometimes trained 5-8 hours a day and then as soon as she could work at age 15, she got a job so she could work as late as 10pm.

By living a life of busyness, Galaxy learned to juggle many activities at once. This in turn taught her how to optimize her time and create efficiency.
In many ways Galaxy’s learned many great skills in her journey away from home. And in another, her journey of “running” kept her from facing her fear and owning her power and standing in her truth.

In her 30’s Galaxy eventually grew very tired and got very sick. Choosing to life over death, she stopped “running, hiding and avoiding” her past. Thank goodness for the tools in which she discovered that kept her from her pain. Yet, what she resisted… persisted. She knew there had to be another way to thrive in life vs running from her problem. From that day she started her inner journey working with me releasing resistance and being free.

Hiding To Keep Safe

Now, meet my friend, Alicia (name also changed for privacy).

Alicia is a very sensitive soul who had a super power of sorts, yet… she did not know. She is very sensitive and and clairsentient. Meaning her sense of “feeling” is very strong. Alicia loved the feelings of joy. Yet, the feelings of grief, frustration, anger, loneliness, judgement, shame and others did not feel so good and were so intense they consumed and crippled her. And when she was around others, the experiences intensified… as she could feel the pain of all who were around her. Often making it hard to discern what was and was not hers.

Alicia “hid” behind alcohol. She saw her dad drink excessively throughout her life and was angry at him for always being drunk and never being present. But when she tried alcohol herself, she realized that it was a little easier to get through her day and the intensity of all her feelings were not as strong. Like her dad, she found a tool that helped her breath a little easier. Unconsciously, trying not to be like her dad, Alicia vowed to be a functioning alcoholic vs a dysfunctional one.

As Alicia got older she needed to drink more and more to get relief from all her feelings. Sometimes she put herself and others in danger by driving under the influence. It also took a lot of work to keep her “secret” from everyone for fear that people would look at her like she had looked at her father.

Eventually alcohol barely numbed the pain of the intense feelings, yet… every ounce helped so, Alicia drank all day long, everyday. The pain was still there and now an addiction filled with shame was there too.

Then the day came… she lost her best friend, her rock, her greatest supporter… her mom. Not knowing how to live, Alicia crawled into a ball and didn’t move for a month.

Alicia knew if she was going to make it, she needed help, she prayed and was guided to post a cry for help on Facebook for a grief counselor. I happened to see her post and that week we began working together as she dedicated herself to her new desired freedom.

Since our work together, her whole life shifted and realigned. She no longer drinks alcohol for survival, has learned to talk with her mom's soul for closure and for continued mom support, and has learned new tools that support her super powers of feeling. She now uses her gifts to help people and herself and lives happily married to her sweetheart doing a job she loves.

How do you keep yourself Safe? Are you ready to learn new tools?

These stories are here to show you, we are all human and what you see on the outside is not all you get. Many of us have been “running, hiding and avoiding” and are tired and do not know any other way. And because those tools have been working (not great, but better than nothing) people stay in that survival mode.

Yet, I am here to tell you there are new ways to move through this reality. To face your darkness and learn from it to become an even better person.

Break Free of Your Pain Today

​Join me this Tuesday, March 6th at 7pm in Sacramento for a powerful workshop, “Addiction- Stop Running, Avoiding and Hiding.” And, if you are not able to make the workshop and/or are interested in private sessions, email me today to set up your free virtual consultation and begin finding the relief you desire. It’s time to “Release Resistance and Be Free!”

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